NOTE: You may attend any session during a breakout time slot. You are not required to go to breakouts aimed at your profession.
Breakout Session 1 - for Church & Ministry Leaders
Godly Sexuality at all Ages & Stages of Life
Jonathan Daugherty, founder and president, Be Broken Ministries
Is godly sexuality and its related challenges only something for young people to struggle with and address? Or, has God designed our sexuality in such a way that over the course of a lifetime we can continue to learn and grow as disciples of Christ through new and unfolding challenges and opportunities in this area?
In this session you will discover that God’s design for sexuality allows for lifelong maturing in godliness. In every age and stage of life, God uses our sexuality to draw us deeper into the metaphor of the Gospel, the morality of holy living, and the maturity of bearing good fruit that last forever. This session will be very interactive. Bring your questions and insights for discussion.
SafePlace/SafeProcess for Addressing Sexual Abuse in the Church
James M. Reeves, DMin., Senior Pastor, City On a Hill DFW, author of Refuge and Life Change For Couples, producer/director for the Fearless Series For Women
In this session you will discover the why and the how of the Church becoming a Safe Place for people to be honest about their secret wounds such as sexual abuse. You will also learn a strategy for how the Church can have a Safe Process for helping people move toward spiritual and emotional maturity in Christ when they become honest about their hurts.
Understanding and Resisting the Global Sexual Revolution
Jennifer Roback Morse, Ph.D., Founder and President, The Ruth Institute, author of The Sexual State: How Elite Ideologies are Destroying Lives and How the Church was Right All Along.
This presentation is based on the book, The Sexual State: How Elite Ideologies are Destroying Lives and Why the Church was Right all along. The presentation makes the case for traditional Judeo-Christian sexual morality and illuminates the ideologies that undermine it.
Traditional sexual morality protects important values and is more humane than the modern Sexual Revolution.
The Sexual Revolution is a set of three interlocking ideologies that are supported by elites and require the support of the government. Understanding the causes of the Sexual Revolution allows us to develop sound pastoral and public strategies for resisting it. The net result is increased confidence in traditional Judeo-Christian sexual morality, and greater skill in defending it both publicly and privately.
Creating an Integrated Home & Church Sexual Integrity Partnership
Daniel Weiss, Founder and President, The Brushfires Foundation, coauthor, Treading Boldly Through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for Parents
Christian parents often feel overwhelmed and isolated in today’s hypersexualized culture. The technology is outpacing them, the social and legal sexual norms are disintegrating, and too few parents have the close personal bonds with other parents that could provide much-needed guidance and stability. Even so, far too many churches are unaware of these needs or unable to meet them through a vibrant ministry outreach.
This session examines the impact of community bonds on personal sexual choices and makes the case that a strong and integrated church-home partnership is needed for an effective and lasting pursuit of sexual integrity in a hypersexualized culture. Participants will explore a number of possibilities for churches to partner with parents in the sexual education of their children and leave with a framework for launching church-home partnership in their congregation.
Breakout Session 1 - for Care Givers
Sexual Betrayal & Trauma: God’s Heart Toward the Betrayed
Barbara Steffens PhD LPCC, BCC, CCPS
This presentation will address one of the areas most impacted by intimate betrayal for the partner/spouse: sexual wounding and sexual trauma. Unfortunately, some distorted teachings on sexuality and marriage make it difficult for some women to know how to best take care of themselves in the aftermath of betrayal. We will look at some common misconceptions or misunderstandings of Scripture and discuss God's heart toward the betrayed. We will look at symptoms of sexual trauma and provide some tips on sexual boundaries and steps towards sexual healing for the betrayed spouse.
How Caregivers Can Begin Working with Churches
Troy Snyder MS, NC, LPC, CPCS, CCSAS
This presentation will discuss how all caregivers can know what they offer and present it to the local churches. We will give an outline for a strategic plan of attack. We will address some of the barriers to connect to the church and how to overcome them. There will be many practical examples of how to engage the church and its members. There will be an open forum for discussion and creative, practical advice.
Breakout Session 2 - for Church & Ministry Leaders
Ministry to Transgender Individuals
John Fort, Director of Training, Be Broken Ministries
Pastors and youth pastors often tell us they are afraid to engage in conversations about gender and identity because they don’t have enough information to feel comfortable doing so. We are also frequently asked how best to minister to the needs of trans people in ways that help them resolve conflicts between their faith and experiences.
The purpose of this workshop is to equip church leaders, particularly those who work with children and youth, by better understanding the different forms of transgenderism and the associated emotional pain with each. We will also provide some concrete ways churches can come alongside trans people in ways that draw them into a deeper relationship with Jesus.
Navigating Difficult Questions, Conversations, and Situations
Josh Glaser, Regeneration Ministries, co-author of Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for Parents
Every Christian in our day will face difficult, complex, and sometimes quite intense questions and situations with people both inside and outside their families, small groups, and churches. What do you tell a gay man who asks if you think he’s going to hell? What do you do when you discover your worship leader is sexually active or when a girl in your youth group begins dressing like a guy and tells you to use the preferred pronouns he/him/his.
We know that Jesus came full of grace and truth, but can’t it seem sometimes like grace and truth are incompatible? This workshop is designed to provide participants with four “compass headings” to help them orient as they engage with people both outside and inside the church who are stumbling over (or pushing against) difficult issues related to sex and sexuality.
Why the Church Must Address Pornography (and How)
Karen Potter, MA Ed, CSP, National Sales Director and Ministry Outreach Director, Covenant Eyes
Pornography is actively targeting our homes and churches. This isn’t just a moral issue, but is seriously impacting the spiritual strength of our people. With each passing year, pornography becomes more accessible and normalized as technology continues to advance. Many are looking to the church for guidance, but far too many leaders don’t know how to handle this personal and sensitive topic.
In this session, we will discuss how the Church can be a leading force for openness and healing. We will explore the harms of pornography to men and women, married and singles, and Gen Z. Participants can expect to leave this session with a greater appreciation for open ministry that deals with this topic in grace-filled ways, as well as a plan of action they can begin to implement in their church.
Discipleship Models for Care and Change
Nick Stumbo, Executive Director, Pure Desire Ministries International, author, Setting Us Free; An Unexpected Journey of Grace and Rodney Wright, Advancement Specialist, Pure Desire, co-author, How to Talk With Your Kids About Sex
Many churches want to help their congregation in the area of sexual brokenness and recovery. Seeing the wreckage of brokenness in countless lives and marriages, leaders are motivated to create avenues of healing and change. However, very few effective discipleship strategies exist. Many leaders feel like they must create this ministry from scratch or risk doing nothing.
In this breakout, attendees will learn about churches that are already employing effective discipleship models for care and change in the area of sexual brokenness. Rather than leaving this vital ministry to the margins of church life, you will hear about how to implement sexual recovery and health into the rhythms and routines of your church. This session will be practical, relevant, and filled with ideas to help you implement next steps, whether you are in senior
leadership at your church, a motivated volunteer, or somewhere in-between.
Breakout Session 2 - for Care Givers
How to Support Partners When the Marriage Doesn't Survive the Addiction
Stacey Sadler, MA, LPC, CCPS, EMDR Certified
Marriage IS NOT the only redemption story! As a helper you will learn to look at your first reactions to their strong emotion and see how your reactions affect them. Learn to celebrate the redemption of the human being and understand that divorced/ing partners need loving care and guidance without judgement. Learn how to hold space for them to process their losses.
Creating Satisfying Sex After Betrayal
Joanna Raabsmith, MDIV, MA, LMFT, CCPS
Matthew Raabsmith, MDIV, PCC
Couples seeking restoration in marriages that have been damaged by problematic sexual behaviors, infidelity, or betrayal want to know and follow the right path/timing for healing. Unfortunately, most clinical recovery efforts have remained overly individually focused and disconnected from the rebuilding work of the relationship, specifically sexual reintegration. This presentation will introduce “The Intimacy Pyramid” model which can be utilized as a guide for navigating couples seeking to restore healthy sexual expression.
This model utilizes the strategic components: Honesty, Safety, Trust, Vulnerability, and Intimacy in order to provide a clear path for redeeming couple sexuality after betrayal. This approach appropriately values the trauma experience of the partner and locates the healing for both individuals within the relationship, facilitating a faster recovery time. This presentation will cover how couples can systematically rebuild sexual expression in a way that is safe, satisfying, and significant for both partners.
Breakout Session 3 - Taking Care of Yourself
Breakout Session 3 - Care Giver Training
The journey through a spiritual crisis after the sexual betrayal experience
Donna Meredith Dixon, CLC, CPSAS, APSATS trained, A Door of Hope Peer Facilitator Training
Experiencing a crisis of faith doesn’t mean someone’s faith is shallow or reflect spiritual immaturity. A 2015 joint partner survey between Beyond Betrayal and A Circle of Joy virtual partner communities revealed that 62% of the respondents experienced a spiritual crisis after discovery or disclosure of their spouse’s sexual betrayals.
From a trauma-sensitive theological perspective, we’ll briefly touch on trauma’s spiritual impact consider through partner voices, consider precipitating factors sometimes leading to spiritual distress, and pathways familiar to the church life leading to spiritual growth.
Expanding EQ thru the Disclosure Process
Windell Gill, EdD, PSAP, Daring Ventures, Counseling, Coaching, and Consultation
Research and experience have shown that sex addicts struggle with authentic emotion identification, description, and expression (Rizor, Callands, Desrosiers, & Kershaw, ,2017). Interacting effectively with addicts during disclosure preparation offers opportunity for emotional recognition, regulation, and development. Ultimately, addicts expand their emotional capacity to connect more genuinely with their partners as they recognize more clearly their own emotions and feelings as well as making space for their partner’s pain.
In this session participants will be able to identify and employ specific strategies related to the disclosure process that empower the addict to connect their emotions with bodily feelings and impulses as well as expand the addict’s emotional projection more openly toward their partner’s betrayal experience.
Breakout Session 4 - Collaborative Workshops
Breakout Session 4 - Care Giver Training
Creating Safety After Discovery (Boundaries Revisited)
Dr. Jake Porter, LPC, CSAT
The discovery of sexual addiction and/or chronic betrayal can send shock waves through a
home, damaging the foundation and making it feel like a very unstable, unsafe place. For
betrayed partners, the newly discovered acts of betrayal force their brains into a process of
rewriting the history of their relationship. Without a clear understanding of reality, there is no
firm foundation for trust. For addicts who have been outed, panic ensues as they make
desperate attempts to manage the consequences of their behavior coming to light.
This session will focus on the essential need for safety post-discovery, outlining both
theoretically and practically how to help a couple find stabilization during this critical time.
Boundaries will be examined as a tool for providing safety, as well as a means of rebuilding
trust. This session will also provide an outline of treatment goals and interventions for this
initial phase of recovery.
The Benefits of Therapeutic Disclosure and Polygraph: How it helps individuals and couples grow, heal, and live their best life
Conrad Reynolds and Kathy Reynolds, CPC
Drawing from our personal experience as a couple and Kathy’s experience as a professional coach, we plan to share how the therapeutic disclosure process supported our growth as individuals and led to healing in our relationship after divorce. We intend to demonstrate how this process can be an invaluable tool for helping couples who have experienced betrayal in their relationship.
NOTE: You may attend any session during a breakout time slot. You are not required to go to breakouts aimed at your profession.